As a little girl I always dreamt of the day that I would get married. I still do. Going to all of my cousins weddings and see this perfect day that all your friends and family can come together and witness just how much you love a person is magical.
To have a wedding you need five key things.
1. Find a man.
Nothing can happen until you find that one person that knows you better than anyone else. Someone you can cry and laugh with. Who is always there for you and someone you feel safe with. A person that you wont mind spending the rest of your life with. And as they say in sickness and in health for better or worse til death do you part. It is a commitment. Not something that you rush into.
2. Find a ring.
Whether you pick out the ring ahead of time or he daringly goes and picks one out himself, you have to get a ring. It can be this huge brand new one or a sentimental old one or even a crackerjack one that turns your finger green. Usually he is the one to make this speech about how much he loves you, gets down on one knee and do what some may say the hardest thing he has ever done and ask will you marry me?
3. Endless Planning
Most would say it takes about a year to plan a proper wedding. From the venue to the caterer to the colors to the flowers and finally the dress. The planning can get hectic for some and therefore they get a wedding planner. But for others this day turns them into a monster, a bridezilla. The planning can be really fun for some but the planning shouldn’t be as fun as the actual day.
4. The Day
After countless hours of driving to look at venues, tasting a variety of food, trying on an overwhelming amount of dresses, and just about everything in between the day has come. Everything you have done behind the scenes is now going to be put together for this one special day. At this point all the details should be left behind and all that matters is you and that lucky man.
Everyone is in their seats, they see you in the distance and rise. The groom cracks a smile or a tear and you make your way to the alter. The minister says a few words then hopefully lets them sit and the ceremony begins. Vows are exchanged, tears are shed, and even a few laughs. You hear you may kiss the bride and then make their way back down the aisle but this time as man and wife.
You go and take pictures while the guests eat appetizers. After everyone makes their way to their table you enter the room as Mr. and Mrs. They clap and you take your seat to eat. Later toasts will be made from loved ones about you and the groom and then you will get up and have your first dance. the floor will be opened to everyone and people will let loose dancing the night away. The cake will be cut and maybe shoved in your face and before you know it the day is over. But that isn’t the end. That is just one day.
5. The rest of your life
You don’t have to only be looking back at that one special day, you can look ahead to all the special days you are going to have. For some people it is just a day. Everything goes in boxes or wedding albums to be forgotten about. I mean you are only going to wear the dress once and most marriages end in divorce so why go to all that trouble for just one day? The answer is because for this one day this one day out of your entire life people come together to recognize your love for someone else and the commitment you are about to make. It brings two separate families together and you get to tell everyone just what that means to you.
So next time you think about eloping or just not getting married altogether since what is the difference of a little piece of paper? Think about everyone every one that has been there for you and think about what that paper really means because to some it means the world so take it seriously marriage isn’t a joke unless you make it out to be. That paper and those vows can mean something if you let it.