It is hard to imagine that I am the only person out there who struggles with finding that perfect gift. That gift that your giftee will love forever and will make them realize that you are their true friend.
Because a gift says a lot right? It says that you pay attention to what they like and dislike. That when they think they are just ranting and no one is listening, that you are listening. It’s always nice to see the look on their face when you get them what they really wanted. That they didn’t have to say anything to you, you just knew.
But then there is the struggle that it might be too personal. You may not have known this person for long enough to be able to know this about them. Or, you overthought a remark that was supposed to just have been said in passing. Yes they made a Doctor Who joke, but are they a true whovian? If you get them a tardis backpack, will it just be too much?
There is also the challenge of figuring out what level your friendship is at. Is it still surface level, and giving them a gift would make it too awkward? Or is it at that time that you need to look past the candy bars and dollar-section items, and into the big stuff?
Lets hope you never encounter the “I don’t like surprises and this is what I want” people. The people who tell you what they want because they don’t trust that you will get the right thing. Or that they don’t want you struggling. It’s sad for me to hear these people say that this way is just easier, because all I can think is that they have been disappointed so many times in life that it isn’t worth it anymore. I always want someone’s birthday gift to be a surprise to them. I want it to be something that means something to them, that makes them feel cared for. If you really know them, they shouldn’t feel obliged to help you find their own gift.
While gift-giving may be hard at times. I have never found it unrewarding. The smile on the receivers face is too precious.